I totally agree. It's interesting to compare all these boys' relationships to their father with, say, Ron. Ron's father is a mixture of good and bad at all times. Sometimes he's frightened of Molly, sometimes he's putting his foot down. The kids worry about losing him in OotP, but can also be dismissive and frustrated with him at times.
Harry, Neville and Draco all have these sort of wild extremes about their own fathers, it seems. James is the perfect guy, until Harry sees him acting like a jerk and then it's like a betrayal and he can't believe it. (Ron's seen his own father looking foolish often enough that he'd never have the same problem if he saw him doing something he didn't like in a Pensieve.) Draco's sort of unique in that his father has always been there, but he's definitely seemed to have created an idealized version of him anyway, possibly because Lucius' personality sort of demanded it. Then he does the same sort of thing with Snape. In HBP he's openly challenges Snape as a father figure and doesn't even want to talk about Lucius. He may feel betrayed about Lucius letting him down or leaving him, but he doesn't seem ready to face that yet.
And then with Neville he's got this huge split between the father he hears about, who was so wonderful and capable, and the man he's known all his life who's completely helpless, like an infant. That gives him a unique situation there. He's got the memory of Frank, which he hasn't been able to challenge the way Harry does when he sees James in the Pensieve, then he's got this pitiful creature that he probably feels that he shouldn't challenge because it would be cruel. That means holding himself back out of respect.
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Harry, Neville and Draco all have these sort of wild extremes about their own fathers, it seems. James is the perfect guy, until Harry sees him acting like a jerk and then it's like a betrayal and he can't believe it. (Ron's seen his own father looking foolish often enough that he'd never have the same problem if he saw him doing something he didn't like in a Pensieve.) Draco's sort of unique in that his father has always been there, but he's definitely seemed to have created an idealized version of him anyway, possibly because Lucius' personality sort of demanded it. Then he does the same sort of thing with Snape. In HBP he's openly challenges Snape as a father figure and doesn't even want to talk about Lucius. He may feel betrayed about Lucius letting him down or leaving him, but he doesn't seem ready to face that yet.
And then with Neville he's got this huge split between the father he hears about, who was so wonderful and capable, and the man he's known all his life who's completely helpless, like an infant. That gives him a unique situation there. He's got the memory of Frank, which he hasn't been able to challenge the way Harry does when he sees James in the Pensieve, then he's got this pitiful creature that he probably feels that he shouldn't challenge because it would be cruel. That means holding himself back out of respect.