I'm so glad I'm not the only one who sees this problem. Harry's upringing was for laughs and Snape's was not. It just buggles my mind that Rowling seems to feel that being affected by things that have happened to you is so wrong you deserve to be hated. Abused children can't help being unpleasant but they still deserved to be loved.

And don't get me started on Ginny. What happened to her during her first year of Hogwarts would have affected her for the rest of her life. She was lonely and put her trust in a diary. It betrayed her and took over her body for periods of time. But, of course, she still managed to become pretty and popular and not have a single problem from that!

The moral message of these books seems to be he one I learned in high school: Shut Up And Act Normal Because No One Cares