ext_7770 ([identity profile] elanor-x.livejournal.com) wrote in [personal profile] sistermagpie 2010-11-23 06:32 pm (UTC)

(Isn't there even a word for this, like in the urban dictionary? A word for insulting pretty women incessantly?)
Personally, I don't get why this kind of hostility about women would be attractive at all.


I don't get it either and, like you, would feel insulted and angry (both in childhood and now), but some men apparently think this will make them popular with women in RL. I believe the word is "a neg" or "negging". Here it is:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=neg

The funny thing is that imo negging reveals lack of confidence. By trying to put down a woman, a man reveals he thinks she won't date him otherwise, iow that he is quite significantly worse than her. If he thinks so, who am I to claim otherwise? After all, he knows himself the best.

Btw, some boys were attracted to me in childhood (my mother remembers one 3-year-old, then at 10-13) and none of them picked on me. On the contrary, even 3-year-old tried to attract my attention in not-negative ways. Another reason to doubt "he just likes you" common wisdom. Except sexism, it's one more excuse not to deal with bullying, which bullied kids of both genders get plenty of.

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