Actually, it sounds like you were making perfect sense. And I see things like that a lot. I mean, there are times when a character is doing something incredibly painful to watch, but they usually aren't doing it because they're intentionally trying to be a jerk, particularly if there are parents involved. In fact, a while ago I remember asking, because I've been trying to write this character that's hard for me, about parents like that, the type that put their children down in ways that seem really painful to me, or pressuring them like the father you describe. I'd seen people like that but it was hard for me to really undrstand it. And people basically suggested that I needed to know exactly how the father saw the kid so that he thought his behavior was justified or correct. So you have to be able to on the one hand say, "This is a bad way to parent your child," but also understand the logic of the character, imo.
But sometimes people get just as angry over reasonable arguments as unreasonable ones, it's true. Like I mentioned somewhere else on this thread, there are some anonymice (or one anonymouse) on F_W who is apparently completely angered by imo reasonable arguments about a certain HP character being anything but a piece of dirt. It's very strange.
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Actually, it sounds like you were making perfect sense. And I see things like that a lot. I mean, there are times when a character is doing something incredibly painful to watch, but they usually aren't doing it because they're intentionally trying to be a jerk, particularly if there are parents involved. In fact, a while ago I remember asking, because I've been trying to write this character that's hard for me, about parents like that, the type that put their children down in ways that seem really painful to me, or pressuring them like the father you describe. I'd seen people like that but it was hard for me to really undrstand it. And people basically suggested that I needed to know exactly how the father saw the kid so that he thought his behavior was justified or correct. So you have to be able to on the one hand say, "This is a bad way to parent your child," but also understand the logic of the character, imo.
But sometimes people get just as angry over reasonable arguments as unreasonable ones, it's true. Like I mentioned somewhere else on this thread, there are some anonymice (or one anonymouse) on F_W who is apparently completely angered by imo reasonable arguments about a certain HP character being anything but a piece of dirt. It's very strange.
I'm glad you decided to let that out!