Ah! Yes, you've explained it when I was going around in circles and sounding like I disagreed. I do think we're sexual from the womb and that children can be sexual and this exists in the characters I'm writing. Slash has not yet so far come into play. The young characters *have* displayed sexuality, it just happened to be m/f (which is not to say they are straight or will grow up to be straight). But I could point to certain aspects of the characters and say definitely where they were being influenced sexually without there being any sex. In some characters it's more obvious than with others, because that's just their personality.

So my problem was I was using "sexual" to mean sex. Slash is sexual, but it doesn't have to have any actual sex. I would hope if I come upon a scene that does have a slashy vibe to it that it can just be there like the stuff with het-vibes, a normal part of the relationships. I know there has been one thing I came across thinking about the backstory between two characters that was definitely slashy, and I would like to incorporate that into their relationship in whatever way it comes out.