Good lord, I totally didn't even notice the repetition--no idea how I did it--until somebody in RL mentioned it! Then I was like--does anybody have a computer? LOL!
You think Sirius is the lover? That's interesting--why? Because I did think that for a second because of the "he's the sexiest" comment, but he usually ignores girls and has no romantic relationships. Though it doesn't have to be romantic love, of course. So he did love James--but I was thinking how his love for Harry always seemed so stunted too in OotP. Anyway, everybody should have some of both, like you said, and of course in Avatar it's just not so clear-cut!
It seems more like a delicate ecosystem, or something.
Delicate or maybe just more fluid? Girls' relationships so often change--like I know I've read about things pointing out that men always tend to look for hierarchies. In any situation if they meet other men that's going to be a factor--it doesn't have to be a bad thing, but everybody sort of has their place. This is interesting in Avatar because it's just not so clear cut. There's no one boy I would say is the leader all the time. Aang's the Avatar, but he's young and learning. Sokka's the one with the plans, but he's also young and goofy. Zuko sometimes takes on the responsibility, but he's also young and confused. So they shift around and act more like equals, which is nice.
Girls' hiearchies tend to change--somebody who's Queen Bee one day can be out the next. Not always literally the way it just happened with the dangerous ladies, of course! I think they also are just socialized to focus on men more than men focus on women. Like with guys I think they're given this idea that your guy friends are important and separate than girls (bros before hos!) while with girls they're encouraged to make their romantic partner the center of their life so men can be more central.
It's nice, though, that Avatar doesn't do that either. I mean, it shows girls having relationships with each other that are more complicated. Katara and Toph have some problems, but they're very much about their specific personalities and not jealousy over some boy. Same thing with Azula and her friends.
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Date: 2008-06-20 01:30 pm (UTC)You think Sirius is the lover? That's interesting--why? Because I did think that for a second because of the "he's the sexiest" comment, but he usually ignores girls and has no romantic relationships. Though it doesn't have to be romantic love, of course. So he did love James--but I was thinking how his love for Harry always seemed so stunted too in OotP. Anyway, everybody should have some of both, like you said, and of course in Avatar it's just not so clear-cut!
It seems more like a delicate ecosystem, or something.
Delicate or maybe just more fluid? Girls' relationships so often change--like I know I've read about things pointing out that men always tend to look for hierarchies. In any situation if they meet other men that's going to be a factor--it doesn't have to be a bad thing, but everybody sort of has their place. This is interesting in Avatar because it's just not so clear cut. There's no one boy I would say is the leader all the time. Aang's the Avatar, but he's young and learning. Sokka's the one with the plans, but he's also young and goofy. Zuko sometimes takes on the responsibility, but he's also young and confused. So they shift around and act more like equals, which is nice.
Girls' hiearchies tend to change--somebody who's Queen Bee one day can be out the next. Not always literally the way it just happened with the dangerous ladies, of course! I think they also are just socialized to focus on men more than men focus on women. Like with guys I think they're given this idea that your guy friends are important and separate than girls (bros before hos!) while with girls they're encouraged to make their romantic partner the center of their life so men can be more central.
It's nice, though, that Avatar doesn't do that either. I mean, it shows girls having relationships with each other that are more complicated. Katara and Toph have some problems, but they're very much about their specific personalities and not jealousy over some boy. Same thing with Azula and her friends.