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I have cleaned the hell out of my room. Hurray! I cleaned the CLOSET. I even VACUUMED the CLOSET. Woo. Hoo. Go me. I now have no excuse for not using this day to work on writing. Really.
While I was cleaning, I rented four, count them: four, movies that I wanted to see and missed in the theaters. What follows are mini-reviews/thoughts for each:
( Tiny spoilers here and there maybe for Pulp Fiction, Drumline, Training Day and Far From Heaven. )
Speaking of repressed 50's housewives I'm floored by a conversation on one of my mbs today. There are three, count them three, men all earnestly explaining how women are all really meant to spend their time raising their children and not working. They just live in this fantasy world where women are supposed to simply act out this supporting role in the world. When one single mother explained how her husband flaked out and left her, never contributing any child support, and how the fact that she'd continued working was probably the difference between poverty and an okay-life for her children she was just dismissed. Now, I have no problems with women who take time off work to raise their children--my own mother was a stay-at-home mom. But for god's sakes, how can anybody honestly expect a woman to let her entire life depend on the whim of a man? To cut off all her independent means of support and just hope that her husband stays interested enough in their life, children and marriage to support her forever? This is just not a reality nowadays. Frankly, it was only briefly a reality at all! You think those women out on farms in the 1800's were spending their day spending quality time with their children? They were working, of course! So back on my mb, here's this woman who's raised wonderful children who are now in college with little help from her husband and these guys have the nerve to tell her she didn't raise her children at all--somebody else did--because she had the gall to have a job. And yes, those of them with children worked themselves and left their wife to raise the kids but--get this--a husband and wife "are one" so it doesn't count. Yeah, right.
I didn't even reply on this thread. It just seemed like...why should I have to defend myself to three men (varying in age from their 20's to their 50's) and their childish fantasy role of me? I'm usually pretty outspoken about women's issues but here I appear to be called upon to defend the fact that I'm an actual person instead of a paper doll Mommy cut-out. So I just wanted to give a shout-out here to you who are mothers, single or married, as well as to those who are not mothers because you all rock.
Oh, and btw, apparently I'm British!( See, the quiz says so. )
While I was cleaning, I rented four, count them: four, movies that I wanted to see and missed in the theaters. What follows are mini-reviews/thoughts for each:
( Tiny spoilers here and there maybe for Pulp Fiction, Drumline, Training Day and Far From Heaven. )
Speaking of repressed 50's housewives I'm floored by a conversation on one of my mbs today. There are three, count them three, men all earnestly explaining how women are all really meant to spend their time raising their children and not working. They just live in this fantasy world where women are supposed to simply act out this supporting role in the world. When one single mother explained how her husband flaked out and left her, never contributing any child support, and how the fact that she'd continued working was probably the difference between poverty and an okay-life for her children she was just dismissed. Now, I have no problems with women who take time off work to raise their children--my own mother was a stay-at-home mom. But for god's sakes, how can anybody honestly expect a woman to let her entire life depend on the whim of a man? To cut off all her independent means of support and just hope that her husband stays interested enough in their life, children and marriage to support her forever? This is just not a reality nowadays. Frankly, it was only briefly a reality at all! You think those women out on farms in the 1800's were spending their day spending quality time with their children? They were working, of course! So back on my mb, here's this woman who's raised wonderful children who are now in college with little help from her husband and these guys have the nerve to tell her she didn't raise her children at all--somebody else did--because she had the gall to have a job. And yes, those of them with children worked themselves and left their wife to raise the kids but--get this--a husband and wife "are one" so it doesn't count. Yeah, right.
I didn't even reply on this thread. It just seemed like...why should I have to defend myself to three men (varying in age from their 20's to their 50's) and their childish fantasy role of me? I'm usually pretty outspoken about women's issues but here I appear to be called upon to defend the fact that I'm an actual person instead of a paper doll Mommy cut-out. So I just wanted to give a shout-out here to you who are mothers, single or married, as well as to those who are not mothers because you all rock.
Oh, and btw, apparently I'm British!( See, the quiz says so. )
