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I feel like I've been away for years instead of a week. I had a good time, though. Got back last weekend then was both buried trying to do everything that backed up while I was out of the country and, more importantly, looking forward to seeing ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
samaranth and Leshii when they visited.
Sam gave me a little Australian magpie which delights me to no end--I can't wait to put it on my desk at work. Also--get this--a board book about Tasmanian Devils. Australia continues to prove itself a wonderfully wacky country. I love the idea of a little baby gumming a book full of little Tasmanian Devils baring their teeth.
We (that's Leshii,samaranth and petitesoeur) went to see Patrick Stewart in The Caretaker. The pleasant surprise in the cast was Aidan Gillen who I understand is in the UK Queer as Folk. He was fabulous...who was he on QAF? I've only ever seen about 5 minutes of the UK version but I'd be interested to know which character he was. Sam missed most of the snow, unfortunately (and of course it started again the moment she left) but presumably saw her first SNL last night with Elijah Wood. Interesting trying to explain the show to somebody: "Well, it's supposed to be funny, but..." I think my two favorite moments were the Frodo/Gollum sitcom and Elijah's entrance in the choir boy scene mouthing "Thank you" to the crowd while holding a sign that said, "Saving my voice." Elijah seemed to sing in about every skit and I was surprised to find myself thinking he sounded almost more natural speaking as Boy George in an English accent (shades of Brad Dourif syndrome?). Oh yeah, and poor Jai Rodruiguez. Eye contact is important!
It's weird getting back on lj for some reason. Before I left I was in this groove posting a lot and now I feel like I'm having to lose my lj virginity all over again. (Though I had no trouble leaping back into the pool on![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-community.gif)
nraged!) I'm also really scared to see ROTK. I haven't even thought about getting tickets yet. It's like I don't want to believe it's happening. I don't want it to end. I've also heard a few spoilers that frighten me terribly. One in particular almost made me burst into tears, but then somebody described it in a way that sounded okay. I just know it's going to knock me flat when I see it and I'll need a long time to recover from it. Somebody is going to a press screening tomorrow night...
Oh, one excellent thing that happened while I was away was that Marigold was announced cancer-free. She had surgery right before I left and was still at the vet, but the doctor said there seemed to be no cancer in the margins of what they took out. She made me a little card celebrating this fact that was waiting for me when I got home. ("No cancer. Cookies now.") Her hair has been shaved in strange areas, so one side of her behind is completely shaved and her tail is on a little crooked. She has a huge scar running from one side to the other which she feels gives her street cred. Her new name on the street is Scarbutt.
I notice the chan debate is still going strong!
I think there's a difference between chan as a kink and underaged sex...just as there's a difference between most things as kinks and the real thing. I tend to think whatever someone is interested in as kinks in stories relate more to some issue that turns them on figuratively rather than literally. Of course I have no idea how interested real life S&M fetishists are in S&M stories, but I wouldn't be so sure the two things always went together. The rare stories I've read that really struck me as chan fantasies always turned out to be two adults role playing, which I think is an entirely different thing and interesting for totally different reasons than a story about actual sexual abuse involving children would be. A story about an actual child being abused deals with all sorts of human issues, painful and ugly as they may be. Two adults role-playing is interesting in what it maybe says about what kind of things turn a person on within the confines of normal sex. I don't think there's anything particularly weird, for instance, in somebody getting turned on by their partner dressing in a school uniform while they pretend to be the strict dean of discipline. It's no weirder than, you know, pretending your partner's the milkman and your husband's on his way home. I think the role-playing story is primarily about sexuality while the real life chan story is primarily about other issues--power, trust, betrayal, etc. There's a crossover area, but I think they're coming from totally different places. I think it's possible to write a story about the role-play type thing and leave out the revelation that it is roleplay, but it still is.
Of course I couldn't resist putting my $.02 in!
Anyway, thanks to everyone who wished my well on my trip--I left right after my last entry so didn't get a chance to answer the posts, but they were very much appreciated. Oh, the one infuriating thing about it. I came back the day of the snow storm, flying into JFK, not a very welcoming place at the best of times. There was this guy trying to get a cab into the city. I think he was German but luckily he spoke English somewhat. Two cabdrivers kicked him out of their cab and refused to take him because they didn't know where his hotel was!!! One of them is demanding directions like this isn't somebody who's never been to NYC before. The cab wrangler at the airport is yelling at them to look it up in their book or call the hotel and get directions but they were both all, "I don't have a book. I don't have a phone. I don't want to take him."
Unbelieveable. Welcome to America.
samaranth and Leshii when they visited. Sam gave me a little Australian magpie which delights me to no end--I can't wait to put it on my desk at work. Also--get this--a board book about Tasmanian Devils. Australia continues to prove itself a wonderfully wacky country. I love the idea of a little baby gumming a book full of little Tasmanian Devils baring their teeth.
We (that's Leshii,
samaranth and petitesoeur) went to see Patrick Stewart in The Caretaker. The pleasant surprise in the cast was Aidan Gillen who I understand is in the UK Queer as Folk. He was fabulous...who was he on QAF? I've only ever seen about 5 minutes of the UK version but I'd be interested to know which character he was. Sam missed most of the snow, unfortunately (and of course it started again the moment she left) but presumably saw her first SNL last night with Elijah Wood. Interesting trying to explain the show to somebody: "Well, it's supposed to be funny, but..." I think my two favorite moments were the Frodo/Gollum sitcom and Elijah's entrance in the choir boy scene mouthing "Thank you" to the crowd while holding a sign that said, "Saving my voice." Elijah seemed to sing in about every skit and I was surprised to find myself thinking he sounded almost more natural speaking as Boy George in an English accent (shades of Brad Dourif syndrome?). Oh yeah, and poor Jai Rodruiguez. Eye contact is important!It's weird getting back on lj for some reason. Before I left I was in this groove posting a lot and now I feel like I'm having to lose my lj virginity all over again. (Though I had no trouble leaping back into the pool on
nraged!) I'm also really scared to see ROTK. I haven't even thought about getting tickets yet. It's like I don't want to believe it's happening. I don't want it to end. I've also heard a few spoilers that frighten me terribly. One in particular almost made me burst into tears, but then somebody described it in a way that sounded okay. I just know it's going to knock me flat when I see it and I'll need a long time to recover from it. Somebody is going to a press screening tomorrow night...Oh, one excellent thing that happened while I was away was that Marigold was announced cancer-free. She had surgery right before I left and was still at the vet, but the doctor said there seemed to be no cancer in the margins of what they took out. She made me a little card celebrating this fact that was waiting for me when I got home. ("No cancer. Cookies now.") Her hair has been shaved in strange areas, so one side of her behind is completely shaved and her tail is on a little crooked. She has a huge scar running from one side to the other which she feels gives her street cred. Her new name on the street is Scarbutt.
I notice the chan debate is still going strong!
I think there's a difference between chan as a kink and underaged sex...just as there's a difference between most things as kinks and the real thing. I tend to think whatever someone is interested in as kinks in stories relate more to some issue that turns them on figuratively rather than literally. Of course I have no idea how interested real life S&M fetishists are in S&M stories, but I wouldn't be so sure the two things always went together. The rare stories I've read that really struck me as chan fantasies always turned out to be two adults role playing, which I think is an entirely different thing and interesting for totally different reasons than a story about actual sexual abuse involving children would be. A story about an actual child being abused deals with all sorts of human issues, painful and ugly as they may be. Two adults role-playing is interesting in what it maybe says about what kind of things turn a person on within the confines of normal sex. I don't think there's anything particularly weird, for instance, in somebody getting turned on by their partner dressing in a school uniform while they pretend to be the strict dean of discipline. It's no weirder than, you know, pretending your partner's the milkman and your husband's on his way home. I think the role-playing story is primarily about sexuality while the real life chan story is primarily about other issues--power, trust, betrayal, etc. There's a crossover area, but I think they're coming from totally different places. I think it's possible to write a story about the role-play type thing and leave out the revelation that it is roleplay, but it still is.
Of course I couldn't resist putting my $.02 in!
Anyway, thanks to everyone who wished my well on my trip--I left right after my last entry so didn't get a chance to answer the posts, but they were very much appreciated. Oh, the one infuriating thing about it. I came back the day of the snow storm, flying into JFK, not a very welcoming place at the best of times. There was this guy trying to get a cab into the city. I think he was German but luckily he spoke English somewhat. Two cabdrivers kicked him out of their cab and refused to take him because they didn't know where his hotel was!!! One of them is demanding directions like this isn't somebody who's never been to NYC before. The cab wrangler at the airport is yelling at them to look it up in their book or call the hotel and get directions but they were both all, "I don't have a book. I don't have a phone. I don't want to take him."
Unbelieveable. Welcome to America.
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