Oh, yeah, the Shadows (or whatever one calls them) are ... pesky...
Instant irrational visceral loathing feels so ... immature when one is doing it. But there's nothing for it. Nothing can make it go away. I've had a couple within the friends&family circle for loong periods of time, and god, what do you say when somebody asks what do you think about their gf/bf and the honest answer is "I loathe them with all my being and sitting next to them makes me sick. I want to scream each time they talk to me, or say anything at all and I wish I never had to see them again.". It's not exactly something you up and confesses. :)
I can totally relate to that reaction to Ginny. I just want her to GO AWAY. There have been some discussions of her and H/G and "girl-bashing" lately and I'm been sitting on my hands to stop the vitriol spewing all over lj. I don't know which Ginny defenses are worse, the stupid ones or the reasonable ones. But I know that no matter how calm, intelligent and reasonably her case is stated, there's really no point.
I don't think it would have been so bad if there weren't legitimate and important reasons to question her characterisation and behaviour in the text. As it is, it so easy to get in this big tangle of loathing where the "good" reasons and the "gut" reasons get all mixed up.
And then when somebody starts ranting about jealousy and wanting Harry for yourselves or hating women or whatever, it's so hard to try and stay calm and rational and accept other people's pov.
I'm kind of wondering if the same Shadow system applies to ships, too. There are some ships I can accept, some I like, some I'm indifferent to, one I love, and then a few, but two in particular, that just boils my brain. There is rage just at the idea of them, I don't have to read fic to get all worked up, just seeing the ship notifications makes my stomach heave. Literally. Maybe there's a similar opposite relationship going on.
Um. I didn't mean this to be a rant. I just wanted to say word. You know. :)
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Date: 2005-12-13 08:06 am (UTC)Instant irrational visceral loathing feels so ... immature when one is doing it. But there's nothing for it. Nothing can make it go away. I've had a couple within the friends&family circle for loong periods of time, and god, what do you say when somebody asks what do you think about their gf/bf and the honest answer is "I loathe them with all my being and sitting next to them makes me sick. I want to scream each time they talk to me, or say anything at all and I wish I never had to see them again.". It's not exactly something you up and confesses. :)
I can totally relate to that reaction to Ginny. I just want her to GO AWAY. There have been some discussions of her and H/G and "girl-bashing" lately and I'm been sitting on my hands to stop the vitriol spewing all over lj. I don't know which Ginny defenses are worse, the stupid ones or the reasonable ones. But I know that no matter how calm, intelligent and reasonably her case is stated, there's really no point.
I don't think it would have been so bad if there weren't legitimate and important reasons to question her characterisation and behaviour in the text. As it is, it so easy to get in this big tangle of loathing where the "good" reasons and the "gut" reasons get all mixed up.
And then when somebody starts ranting about jealousy and wanting Harry for yourselves or hating women or whatever, it's so hard to try and stay calm and rational and accept other people's pov.
I'm kind of wondering if the same Shadow system applies to ships, too. There are some ships I can accept, some I like, some I'm indifferent to, one I love, and then a few, but two in particular, that just boils my brain. There is rage just at the idea of them, I don't have to read fic to get all worked up, just seeing the ship notifications makes my stomach heave. Literally. Maybe there's a similar opposite relationship going on.
Um. I didn't mean this to be a rant. I just wanted to say word. You know. :)
- Clara