I totally know what teratologist was saying in the comments about starting to resent any character people defend too much and liking the one people slag off-- though with Draco, people both defend him (too much) and slag him off (too much), so I'm always torn.
Yeah, but then the trouble is is that the people who defend him too much may have started out annoyed at people slagging him off too much, and much of the slagging is in response to the defending (espeically in fanon) so it's a vicious cycle.
I think I get filled with rage (or something like it) when people defend Lucius, but no one really does (they say he's hot or interesting or they identify with him, but they don't tend to go all out and defend him, and if they do I blame it on the people defending him-- being not the sort of people I like-- rather than Lucius).
I think it's always just easier when it's obviously something outside canon. It tends to annoy me more when people a) claim that their reading is canon and b) other people let them get away with that, you know?
Like, are you allowed to not dislike and actually be attracted to the behaviors you won't/can't allow yourself?? I mean, I guess I've always wanted to be more 'butch' than I am, or something ^^;
Yes, absolutely. Draco is probably a Shadow of me too in the other direction. There are things about him that I don't identify as part of my personality/ego at all, but I like them, like the way he's so open emotionally and all that. So yeah, you can totally be that way in a character. It's not that any character you dislike *must* be a Shadow, because people do things we dislike for other reasons all the time. It's just if your dislike goes overboard then it's probably your Shadow. The key is you're supposed to integrate your Shadow into yourself by identifying it as part of you and accepting it so it isn't so GET THEE BEHIND ME, SATAN! It's just scary at first because of the deep hatred and all.
You realize who your real Shadow in HP is, don't you?
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Date: 2005-12-13 03:21 pm (UTC)Yeah, but then the trouble is is that the people who defend him too much may have started out annoyed at people slagging him off too much, and much of the slagging is in response to the defending (espeically in fanon) so it's a vicious cycle.
I think I get filled with rage (or something like it) when people defend Lucius, but no one really does (they say he's hot or interesting or they identify with him, but they don't tend to go all out and defend him, and if they do I blame it on the people defending him-- being not the sort of people I like-- rather than Lucius).
I think it's always just easier when it's obviously something outside canon. It tends to annoy me more when people a) claim that their reading is canon and b) other people let them get away with that, you know?
Like, are you allowed to not dislike and actually be attracted to the behaviors you won't/can't allow yourself?? I mean, I guess I've always wanted to be more 'butch' than I am, or something ^^;
Yes, absolutely. Draco is probably a Shadow of me too in the other direction. There are things about him that I don't identify as part of my personality/ego at all, but I like them, like the way he's so open emotionally and all that. So yeah, you can totally be that way in a character. It's not that any character you dislike *must* be a Shadow, because people do things we dislike for other reasons all the time. It's just if your dislike goes overboard then it's probably your Shadow. The key is you're supposed to integrate your Shadow into yourself by identifying it as part of you and accepting it so it isn't so GET THEE BEHIND ME, SATAN! It's just scary at first because of the deep hatred and all.
You realize who your real Shadow in HP is, don't you?