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I've been reading this book on the Shadow as in Jung (kind of a theme lately) and I'm reading about how the Shadow is all the things you repress in yourself, so you're enraged when you see them in other people. So somebody else could be a terrible person but wouldn't bother you as much because you're not repressing those kinds of things too much. What's horrible about it is I'm reading and knowing that my shadow…
Is post-GoF Ginny Weasley.
She's not the only one, obviously, but oh my god she so is my shadow. When I hear anyone defending her--even reasonably--I am filled with rage. Of course, being who I am (what I repress) I have to try to listen objectively and even admit when the person has a point, because I always want to be accurate and blah blah. Sometimes even I have to defend her because something's off. But what I really want to do is hex the person so that they shut up. Or say something mean that's probably like, "Don't start talking about Quidditch, you'll only embarrass yourself." Or run into the person and put them in the infirmary. This is why it's so strange when people say one must hate Ginny because one wants Harry for herself, because when Harry is liking Ginny it's hard for me to just not see him as a jerk. Like I picture them in their 30s as some dreadful couple I'd avoid. Unfortunately this isn't exactly objective canon analysis, so I can't usually just say that.
The one good thing about this is Lupin is a lot like me in this way--I mean, the kind of stuff he swallows--so maybe he hates her too. I believe when Ginny is throwing her temper tantrum in OotP Lupin quietly shuts the door. For Lupin that's probably the equivalent of smacking her in the face. Poor guy has to live with her.
Oh, the other thing I just read in one essay in the book that we tend to notice and react to Shadow things more in our own gender than the opposite gender--we can ignore stuff when it's in the other gender. I guess that's where fandom's OMG U R JUS JELLUS AND U DON'T LIKE GIRLZ!!1!!1
I was thinking about this in my ballet class, mostly because I have another Shadow problem there, or maybe it's just a pet peeve. Okay, in a dance class you often split into groups to do combinations. There is this woman who always GOES WITH ALL THE GROUPS! In this case there's just the two groups, but it drives me up a tree. The point is to split up so there's room. Yes, she's just one more person, but why the hell does she get to decide that she's the person who gets to dance whenever she wants because everyone else is only going once? What if everybody just decided to do that? (And btw, we're talking about somebody who's in class with some professional dancers--not me--and is herself not even really on the level the class is at. Every time I see her doing it I start stewing. Also she always winds up standing near me so I'm wishing there wasn't somebody so close to me because I don't like people behind me and look--it's her!
I've been reading this book on the Shadow as in Jung (kind of a theme lately) and I'm reading about how the Shadow is all the things you repress in yourself, so you're enraged when you see them in other people. So somebody else could be a terrible person but wouldn't bother you as much because you're not repressing those kinds of things too much. What's horrible about it is I'm reading and knowing that my shadow…
Is post-GoF Ginny Weasley.
She's not the only one, obviously, but oh my god she so is my shadow. When I hear anyone defending her--even reasonably--I am filled with rage. Of course, being who I am (what I repress) I have to try to listen objectively and even admit when the person has a point, because I always want to be accurate and blah blah. Sometimes even I have to defend her because something's off. But what I really want to do is hex the person so that they shut up. Or say something mean that's probably like, "Don't start talking about Quidditch, you'll only embarrass yourself." Or run into the person and put them in the infirmary. This is why it's so strange when people say one must hate Ginny because one wants Harry for herself, because when Harry is liking Ginny it's hard for me to just not see him as a jerk. Like I picture them in their 30s as some dreadful couple I'd avoid. Unfortunately this isn't exactly objective canon analysis, so I can't usually just say that.
The one good thing about this is Lupin is a lot like me in this way--I mean, the kind of stuff he swallows--so maybe he hates her too. I believe when Ginny is throwing her temper tantrum in OotP Lupin quietly shuts the door. For Lupin that's probably the equivalent of smacking her in the face. Poor guy has to live with her.
Oh, the other thing I just read in one essay in the book that we tend to notice and react to Shadow things more in our own gender than the opposite gender--we can ignore stuff when it's in the other gender. I guess that's where fandom's OMG U R JUS JELLUS AND U DON'T LIKE GIRLZ!!1!!1
I was thinking about this in my ballet class, mostly because I have another Shadow problem there, or maybe it's just a pet peeve. Okay, in a dance class you often split into groups to do combinations. There is this woman who always GOES WITH ALL THE GROUPS! In this case there's just the two groups, but it drives me up a tree. The point is to split up so there's room. Yes, she's just one more person, but why the hell does she get to decide that she's the person who gets to dance whenever she wants because everyone else is only going once? What if everybody just decided to do that? (And btw, we're talking about somebody who's in class with some professional dancers--not me--and is herself not even really on the level the class is at. Every time I see her doing it I start stewing. Also she always winds up standing near me so I'm wishing there wasn't somebody so close to me because I don't like people behind me and look--it's her!
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Is it because Hermione's Muggle-born? Harry's as good as Muggle-born, too, and yet he's the team captain.
Is it because Hermione doesn't play? So what? She's best friends with two Quidditch-mad boys, and has been to every Gryffindor match mentioned in the five years when Quidditch matches are an option.
What I can't understand is why this person chose to pick up on Hermione's emotional intuition (or lack thereof) but didn't make a comment about Ginny's lack of compassion (or pity). Yes, Draco's a tosser/wanker/berk/git (choose the appropriate noun), he gets pleasure from bullying others, he's working for a very dangerous person, and he needs to be brought down a little... but shouldn't Ginny understand, at least intuitively, what the spell does? "Sectum-" is section, separate, "-sempra" is like "semper", always. (This just proves that Wizarding students need some sort of Latin or literature class, but that's another rant for another time.)
Saying "sectumsempra" is a good spell, in the moral sense, is like saying a bullied eleventh-grader is justified in bringing a gun to school and shooting whomever he pleases in the heart.
Yes, I know I'm ranting "here" and not "there", but I don't understand how the greater issue is Hermione's intuition, not Ginny's compassion (or lack thereof).
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That is exactly how this nasty, little incident was portrayed. Harry went "Columbine" on Draco's butt. And NOONE cared. Not even Snape, McGonagall, or Dumbledore. Harry commits an almost mortal curse and all he gets is a little detention. But can that really be such a bother when Ginny rewards him with regular groping sessions?
What even disturbs me more is that most of fandom thinks this is a-okay. That it can be explained away because it is just magic and Draco was healed. But HELLO, did anyone else notice that Snape had to use a powerful, counterspell 3 TIMES to save Draco? And even then he had to go to the infirmary.
I don't know what to think anymore.
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I loved that mike_smith picked up on this too. He was like, "Um, is Harry ever going to have to rethink his own behavior? Because I'm just seeing that he did something really stupid and the result is he gets the girl and wins the Quidditch cup. Even the detentions are played as being about Snape being a jerk and being unfair, so it's not like Harry cares at all what he did."